How to Communicate Better: 5 Practical Tips

Do you have trouble knowing what to say or how to express yourself effectively? Do you wish you were better at handling tense or awkward situations? If so, this article on learning how to communicate better may be for you.

5 Tips for How to Communicate Better

The following are four five evidence-based techniques that can help teach you how to better connect with others, articulate your thoughts more clearly and effectively, and gain a greater understanding of people and situations.

Think before you speak.

Think before you speak rather than blurt out the first thing that comes to mind. Organize your thoughts before you share them and be mindful of who you are talking to so you can address him or her appropriately and adapt your style to suit the situation.

Avoid rambling, hedging, using unnecessary words, or using vague language. Keep it simple, get to the point, and be clear and concise. Avoid filler words like “uh,” “like,” and “so.” Use “I” statements to express your feelings and avoid accusatory language such as pointing fingers or placing blame.

Remember that communication is a two-way street. Don’t try to dominate the conversation or steer it toward yourself. Let the other person have an equal say.

Pay attention to non-verbal communication.

Pay attention to your facial expressions, tone, and body language, and learn how to pick up on the nonverbal cues of others as well. Facial expressions, gestures, tone, and body language often say more than words and can convey unintended messages, lead to misunderstandings, and enhance or dampen a message.

Facing the person you are speaking to, maintaining eye contact with him or her, and using open, positive language conveys that you are interested in and paying attention to what he or she is saying. Fidgeting, shuffling feet, crossing your arms, gazing out the window or at your watch, yawning, and/or letting your eyes wander, on the other hand, sends the message that you are not.

Practice active listening to communicate better.

Communication is a two-way process that involves listening as well as speaking. Active listening means giving the other person your full attention rather than being focused on how you are expressing yourself and rehearsing a response while they are talking.

Be fully present and engaged, and observant of their nonverbal cues as well as their words. Ask questions to gain a deeper understanding of their perspective and rephrase and repeat back what you hear to show you are listening and to verify you are understanding them correctly.

Avoid the temptation to interrupt with your own thoughts, and instead of waiting impatiently for your turn to talk, listen attentively and nod your head to encourage him or her to continue sharing.

Be empathetic and understanding.

People need to feel heard and validated. Respect their right to disagree and try to see things from their perspective. Being able to empathize with the other person’s feelings and perspectives helps build rapport and enhances your ability to communicate effectively.

Additional help to communicate better.

If you need more help than this article has provided on how to communicate better, consider setting up an appointment to meet with one of the faith-based counselors at Orange County Christian Counseling in California.

A trained mental health professional in Orange County, California can provide a neutral, nonjudgmental perspective, help you better understand and address what is hindering your ability to express yourself and help equip you with skills to improve your ability to communicate effectively. Your first appointment is risk-free.